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Wednesday, March 17, 2021

முருகனின் எந்த பெயரை சொல்லி அழைத்தால் என்ன பிரச்சனை தீரும்.

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✡️ஆனந்த கடவுளான முருகப்பெருமானுக்கு பல்வேறு பெயர்கள் உள்ளன. முருகப்பெருமானின் எந்த பெயரை சொல்லி அழைத்தால் என்ன பிரச்சனைகள் தீரும் என்று அறிந்து கொள்ளலாம்.
✡️ஆனந்த கடவுளான முருகப்பெருமானுக்கு பல்வேறு பெயர்கள் உள்ளன. அதாவது காங்கேயன், கார்த்திகேயன், சரவணன், குமரன், சண்முகன், சேனாதிபதி, குகன், வேலாயுதன், கந்தன், கடம்பன், கதிர்வேலன் ஆகிய முக்கியமான பெயர்களில் பக்தர்கள் அன்புடன் வழிபட்டு வருகின்றனர்.
✡️ முருகா என்ற சொல்லில் முக்தி பிறக்கின்றது
கந்தா என்ற சொல்லில் கருணை பூக்கின்றது
கடம்பா என்ற சொல்லில் கருமவினை கரைகின்றது
கதிர்வேலா என்ற சொல்லில் காமம் கலைகிறது
கார்த்திகேயா என்ற சொல்லில் கஷ்டம் அழிகின்றது
ஆறுமுகா என்ற சொல்லில் ஆனந்தம் பிறக்கின்றது
சரவணா என்ற சொல்லில் மனம் சாந்தி அடைகின்றது
குமரா என்ற சொல்லில் குறைகள் விலகுகிறது
குழந்தைவேலா என்ற சொல்லில் குதூகலம் பிறக்கின்றது
தண்டாயுதபாணி என்ற சொல்லில் தரித்திரம் தொலைகிறது
சண்முகா என்ற சொல்லில் சக்தி பிறக்கிறது
அழகன் என்ற சொல்லில் புது ஆனந்தம் பூக்கிறது
மயிலோன் என்ற சொல்லில் மகிழ்ச்சி பிறக்கிறது
விசாகன் என்ற சொல்லில் விடியல் பிறக்கிறது
வேலவா என்ற சொல்லில் வேகம் பிறக்கிறது
சேயோன் என்ற சொல்லில் அழகு பிறக்கிறது
செவ்வேல் என்ற சொல்லில் வசந்தம் பூக்கிறது
பாலமுருகா என்ற சொல்லில் பாவம் நீங்குகிறது
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Tuesday, March 16, 2021

திரை இயக்குநன் எஸ்பி ஜனநாதன்

தமிழ் திரையுலகில் முன்னணி இயக்குனராக இருந்தவர் எஸ்.பி. ஜனநாதன் (வயது 61).  தஞ்சை மாவட்டம் வடசேரியில் பிறந்த இவர் பி. லெனின், பரதன் ஆகியோரிடம் முதலில் பணிபுரிந்து உள்ளார்.  இதன் பின்னர் இயக்குனரானார்.இவரது இயக்கத்தில் வெளியான முதல் படம் இயற்கை.  தேசிய விருது வென்று அவருக்கு பெருமை சேர்த்தது.  இதன்பின்னர் ஈ, பேராண்மை, புறம்போக்கு என்கிற பொதுவுடைமை போன்ற படங்களை இயக்கியுள்ளார்.


இந்நிலையில், விஜய் சேதுபதி நடித்து வரும் 'லாபம்' படத்தை இயக்கியுள்ளார். இதன் படப்பிடிப்பு முடிவுற்று, இறுதிக்கட்ட பணிகள் மும்முரமாக நடைபெற்று வருகின்றன.
திரை இயக்குநன் எஸ்பி ஜனநாதன் என்பவன் தனிமனிதன் அல்ல!
ஒருவர் மரித்துப்போகும் போது தான் புரிகின்றது, அவர் நம் ஆளுமையின் எவ்வளவு பகுதியாகி இருந்திருக்கிறார் என்று.
ஒருவர் மரித்துப்போன பின்பு தான் தெரிகின்றது, அவர் நம் மனதின் எவ்வளவு இயக்கத்தினை நிரப்பியிருக்கிறார் என்று.
திரை இயக்குநர் எஸ்.பி. ஜனநாதனின் ஒரு படத்திற்கு, மற்றவர்கள் பத்து படங்கள் செய்தாலும் ஈடாகாது, இது கலைச்செயல்பாட்டின் பரிமாணத்தினை புரிந்துகொள்வதற்கான அளவு என்று மட்டுமே வைத்துக்கொண்டாலும்.
சென்னையில் எனக்கும் சீனிவாசனுக்கும் உறவு என்றால் அவர் மட்டுமே.
சென்னையில் நாங்கள் காலெடுத்து வைத்தபோது, சென்னையின் கரங்களாகி எங்களை அணைத்துக்கொண்டவர் அவர்.
நண்பர்களே, 61, இறந்து போகும் வயது அன்று. நம் புரிதலுக்கும் நாம் வாழ்வை ஏற்கும் விதத்திலும் நாம் எவரும் தொன்னூறையாவது தொடவேண்டும் என்று நான் அழுத்தம் கொடுப்பேன்.
இன்றைய மருத்துவமனையின் அதிகார, நவீன, புதிர் அமைப்புகளைப் பற்றிப் படம் எடுத்த ஓர் இயக்குநர் இறந்து போன விதம் மனதை மிகவும் துன்புறுத்துவதாக இருக்கின்றது.
ஆனால், இங்கே ‘மருத்துவம்’, என்ற சொல்லைத் தொட்டாலே  எல்லோரும் ஒரே கணத்தில் அதிநவீன மருத்துவ வல்லுநர்கள் ஆகித் தாக்குவதை உணரமுடியும்.
எவ்வளவு குற்றவுணர்வு மேலிடுகிறது என்பதைச் சொல்லி முடியாது. நான் தான் பல முறை எழுதியிருக்கிறேனே, அஞ்சலிகளில் உடன்பாடில்லை என்று.
திரை இயக்குநன் எஸ்பி ஜனநாதன் என்பவன் தனிமனிதன் அல்ல. தொகை மனிதன்.
இன்று அவரைப் பார்த்தபோது, கொஞ்சமாய்க் களைத்து வியர்த்திருந்தது போல் இருந்தார். ஆனால், முகத்தில் அதே  புத்துணர்ச்சி. இன்னும் உயிரின் களை முற்றிலுமாய் நீங்கிப்போயிருக்கவில்லை.
உயிர் காப்போரின் உயிர் கைநழுவிப் போகவிடுவதெல்லாம் நாமன்றி யார் சொல்லுங்கள்!
மானுடத்தின் தீவிர நெருப்பாய்ச் சுடர்விட்டவரை அணைந்துபோகச்செய்ததெல்லாம் நாமன்றி யார் சொல்லுங்கள்!

Kutti Revathi

வழக்கமாக ஜனாசாரை அனைவருக்கும் ஒரு மார்க்சிய சித்தாந்த வாதியாக மட்டுமே தெரியும். ஆனால் அவரிடம் தமிழர் வரலாறு தொன்மம் ,கலை பண்பாடு குறித்த அறிவியல் பூர்வமான தேடலும் நுண்ணறீவும் ஒரு டாக்டர் பட்டம் பெற தகுதியான புத்தகம் எழுதும் அளவுக்கு தகவல்களு,ம் இருந்தது பலருக்கும் தெரியாத விடயம்
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ராஜ ராஜ சோழன் குறித்த திரைப்படம் ஒன்றுக்காக அவர் தஞ்சை பெரிய கோயில் குறித்து மேற்கொண்ட ஆய்வுகளின் போது தமிழர் கட்டிடக்கலையில் இருந்த வியக்க வைக்கும் மேதமையும் ஆற்றலும் அவரை சிலிர்க்க வைத்துள்ளது . தொடர்ந்து அவர் தமிழ் நாடு முழுக்க பயணப்பட்டு இத்துறை சார்ந்த பல அறிஞர்களை சந்தித்து அவர்களுடன் அவர் கருத்து விவாதம் செய்து தெரிந்துகொண்ட தகவல்களை அவ்வப்போது என்னுடன் பகிரும் போது எனக்கு அது புதிய ஜன்னல்களை திறந்து வைத்தது. வெறுமனே தகவல்களாக இல்லாமல் எந்த துறையாக இருந்தாலும் அதன் எண் தசம விகித கணித இலக்கணங்களுடன் உரிய வார்த்தைகளுடன் துல்லியமாக நமக்கு விளக்க முனைவது அவருடைய உரையடாலில் எனக்கு ஆச்சர்யமளித்த விடயம் .
இவ்வளவு தகவல் தெரிந்து வைத்திருந்தாலும் ஒரு புதிய சிறிய வய்து இளைஞன் அவருக்கு தெரியாத புதிய தகவல்களையோ அல்லது புத்தகத்தையோ சினிமவையோ சொல்ல ஆரம்பித்தால் ஒரு குழ்ந்தை போல அவனை வியந்தோதி என்னாபா பயமுறுத்துறியே என குழந்தையாக மாறிவிடுவார் .
அவருக்கு பலமே அவருடைய உதவியாளர்கள் தான் . ஒவ்வொருவரும் இருபது வருடம் இருபத்தைந்து வருடம் அவருடன் பயணிப்பவர்கள் . எனக்கு தெரிந்து தமிழ் சினிமாவில் இவ்வளவு காலம் ஒரே இயக்குனருடன் பயணிக்கும் உதவி இயக்குனர்கள் அவரிடம் மட்டும் தான் . காரணம் அவரிடம் இருக்கும் கம்யூன் வாழ்க்கை. அவருடைய இருப்பிடமே ஒரு கூட்டுப்பண்ணை வாழ்க்கைதான் . சீமான் அண்ணனுக்கு பிறகு ஒரே சமயத்தில் அனைவரும் வட்டமாக அமர்ந்து சமைத்த உணவை பகிர்ந்து சாப்பிடும் அழகை அவரிடம் மட்டுமே பார்த்து நெகிழ்ந்தேன் .
சிலர் முதல் ப்டத்தின் போது இப்படி ஒரு வாழ்க்கையில் துவங்கினாலும் பேரும் புகழும் பெற்றபின் உதவி இயக்குனர்களோடு பழகுவதில் ஒரு இடைவெளி வெற்றியின் அளவைபோல அதிகரித்துக்கொண்டே இருக்கும் . இந்த சூழலில் வைத்து பார்க்கும் போதுதான் ஜனாசார் தோற்றம் எவ்வளவு உயரம் என தெரிய வரும் . அது போல அவரிடம் எனக்கு ஆச்சர்யமளிக்கும் இன்னொரு விடயம் என்னதான் அவர் ருஷய் இலக்கியங்களின் காதலராக இருந்தாலும் அவரை இயக்குவது என்னமோ தமிழ் சினிமாவின் எம் ஜி ஆர் தான் . ஒரு பககம் தொழில் நுட்பத்தில் அபாரமன அறிவும் நவீன அணுகுமுறையும் அவர் படங்களில் இருந்தாலும் ் அதே அளவுக்கு எம் ஜி ஆரையும் அவரது திரைப்படங்களையும் உள்வாங்கியிருந்தார் . சார் எனக்கு சினிமாவில் குரு எம் ஜி ஆர்தான் நீங்க சீன் சொன்னா எம் ஜி ஆர் படத்துல இந்த மாதிரி சீன் வந்துருக்கா அவர் எப்படி இந்த சீனை பண்ணியிருக்கார்னு பாத்துதான் புரிஞ்சுக்குவேன் .. ஏன்னா அவரை விட இந்த மக்களை புரிஞ்சுகிட்டவங்க வேறு யாருமில்ல என்பார் . இயற்கை ஈ .. பேராண்மை போன்ற படங்களின் வெற்றிக்கும் எம் ஜி ஆர் படங்களுக்கும் இருக்கும் கணித பொருத்தப்பாடுகளை என் சினிமா அறிவை வைத்து எப்படியெல்லாமோ ஆய்வு செய்து பார்க்கிறேன் . அதுதான் ஜனாசாரின் வெற்றி .. இல்லாவிட்டால் பெரிய அறிஞர்களே விளக்க முடியாமல் தடுமாறும் மார்க்சிய தத்துவத்தை பேராண்மை படத்தில் ஜெயம் ரவி மூலம் வகுப்பறை காட்சியில் அத்துணை தெளிவாக பல கோடி மனிதர்களுக்கு கொண்டு சென்றிருக்கிறார் . தமிழ் சினிமாவின் சிறந்த காட்சிகளுள் ஒன்றாக அக்காட்சி இன்றும் பரிணிமித்து வருகிறது . அது போலத்தான் கொரோனாகாலத்துக்கு முன்பே ஈ படத்தின் மூலம் பயோவார் குறித்த தகவலை மிக எளிமையாக எடுத்துச்சொல்லியிருந்தார் .
இந்த சமூக அக்கறையும் எளிய மனிதர்களுக்கான வெளிப்பாடும் தான் ஜனாசார்

Ajayan Bala Baskaran

Wednesday, March 10, 2021

Tenfold increase in CO2 emissions cuts needed to stem climate emergency Date: March 3, 2021

 

  • Climate researchers analysed multiple studies and recent monthly energy data
  • They found worldwide CO2 emissions fell by about 7 percent below 2019 levels 
  • Humanity is still short of meeting the climate targets of the 2015 Paris Agreement  
  • Even continued lockdowns wouldn't be enough to prevent a climate emergency

Global carbon dioxide (CO2) emissions still need to decrease tenfold to avoid a climate emergency, scientists warn, despite a global fall in 2020 due to Covid-19.

An international team of experts has performed a 'global stocktake' of humanity's progress towards the Paris Agreement – which aims to keep the global average temperature rise to well below 3.6ºF (2°C), compared to pre-industrial levels.

They found global CO2 emissions fell by around 2.6 billion tonnes in 2020, a decrease of about 7 percent from 2019 levels. 

During this unprecedented, deadly global event, millions of people who could stay at home did just that. Cars sat in driveways. Air travel ground to a halt. Manufacturing plants slowed or stopped. Public buildings shut their doors. Even construction slowed down. Nearly every sector of the energy-using economy reacted to the shock in one way or another.

The result was one of the biggest single drops in modern history in the amount of carbon dioxide humans emit.

Over the first few months of 2020, global daily COemissions averaged about 17 percent lower than in 2019. At the moments of the most restrictive and extensive lockdowns, emissions in some countries hovered nearly 30 percent below last year’s averages, says Glen Peters, one of the authors of the Nature Climate Change analysis and a climate scientist at Norway’s Center for International Climate Research.

While emissions decreased in 64 countries, they increased in 150 countries between 2016 and 2019 – and also increased worldwide overall. 

CO2 emissions decreased by 0.16 billion tonnes on average each year among the 64 countries where emissions decreased.  

This is a tenth of the 1 billion to 2 billion tonne cuts needed at the global level to meet the Paris Agreement climate goals. 

Globally, emissions grew by 0.21 billion tonnes of CO2 per year between 2016 and 2019, compared to 2011 and 2015.    

Results also revealed that in the group of high-income countries, emissions had declined by 0.8 percent per year on average since the Paris Agreement, with a further decrease of 9 per cent in 2020 due to Covid-19. 

THE PARIS AGREEMENT: A GLOBAL ACCORD TO LIMIT TEMPERATURE RISES THROUGH CARBON EMISSION REDUCTION TARGETS

The Paris Agreement, which was first signed in 2015, is an international agreement to control and limit climate change.

It hopes to hold the increase in the global average temperature to below 2°C (3.6ºF) 'and to pursue efforts to limit the temperature increase to 1.5°C (2.7°F)'.

It seems the more ambitious goal of restricting global warming to 1.5°C (2.7°F) may be more important than ever, according to previous research which claims 25 percent of the world could see a significant increase in drier conditions.

In June 2017, President Trump announced his intention for the US, the second-largest producer of greenhouse gases in the world, to withdraw from the agreement.  

The Paris Agreement on Climate Change has four main goals with regards to reducing emissions:


1)  A long-term goal of keeping the increase in global average temperature to well below 2°C above pre-industrial levels

2) To aim to limit the increase to 1.5°C, since this would significantly reduce risks and the impacts of climate change

3) Government agreed on the need for global emissions to peak as soon as possible, recognizing that this will take longer for developing countries

4) To undertake rapid reductions thereafter in accordance with the best available science

Source: European Commission 

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Friday, March 5, 2021

Why are traits like psychopathy and narcissism so destructive to relationships?

Defined in the most simple way dark triad is the combination of predispositions which include non-sensitiveness (for others) and covetousness, and relate to the model of behavior by which is taken the advantage over others, exploitation the others because of his selfish interests (Jones & Paulhus, 2011)

Most people assume that others have the same moral code as themselves. We assume that others agree it is wrong to lie, steal, and manipulate others for our own gain. It can come as a shock, then, when you cross paths with someone who shatters that perception. In some cases, this person may be a narcissistic sociopath—a person with a unique combination of traits that causes them to create destruction in their personal and professional lives.

“Their interests aren’t organizational. Their interests are for themselves,” said Birgit Schyns of Neoma Business School. Schyns coauthored the article with Barbara Wisse of the University of Groningen and Durham University Business School, and Stacey Sanders of the University of Groningen.


The Dark Triad

 

Three types of personality profiles make up the points of this dark triangle—psychopathy, Machiavellianism, and narcissism. Psychologists Paulhus and Williams coined the term "dark triad" in 2002 when they found that these three personalities tend to run together and cause trouble in relationships.

 

Machiavellianism

 

Niccolò Machiavelli was a 15th-century Italian politician famous for advising rulers to use deception and deviousness to maintain power. Nowadays, his name is synonymous with a person who schemes and manipulates people. People with this trait are strategic in their relationships, selecting relationships with people they can use for personal social status or wealth.

 

In a self-report questionnaire of the dark triad personality traits, items for measuring Machiavellianism include:

 

"It’s wise to keep track of information that you can use against people later."

"Whatever it takes, you must get the important people on your side."

"I use insincere flattery to get my way."

Psychopathy

 

When we hear the term “psychopath,” we tend to think of serial killers à la Charles Manson and Ed Kemper. But psychopathy is a spectrum, and we're all on it. People who have a high level of psychopathy have low empathy for others, are callous in their actions, and tend to be reckless and thrill-seeking.

 

Psychopaths might agree with statements like:

 

"Payback needs to be quick and nasty."

"People often say I’m out of control."

"I enjoy having sex with people I hardly know."

Of course, this is not to say that everyone who participates in casual sex with strangers has high levels of psychopathy. A psychopathic portrait would also include many hints of high risk-taking together with a lack of empathy.

 

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Narcissism


 

Narcissus was a beautiful hunter in Greek mythology who fell in love with his own reflection. But now, when we say that someone is narcissistic, we mean something more than just vanity. Someone with high levels of narcissism feels entitled to adoration, power, and high status, so much so that if they don’t get these things, they may lash out.

 

They might agree with statements like:

 

"Many group activities are dull without me."

"I have a natural talent for influencing people."

"I like being the center of attention."

If they don’t get the attention they crave, they might, for example, lie about how many gifts they received for their birthday.

 

Based on the ominous name, you might think people would know to avoid those with the dark triad. Ironically, we’re often attracted to people who have a smidge of psychopathy or a hint of dominance, especially because people with the dark triad tend to be good at making themselves appear more attractive.

 

 

 

Dark Triad Relationship Patterns

 

There are five destructive patterns you can take note of to recognize people high on the continuum of dark triad traits.

 

1. Lying

 

Researchers have found that those higher on the dark triad continuum lie more often and think of themselves as good at deception. More specifically, Machiavellianism is associated with telling more white lies, while narcissism is associated with lying about popularity. The most troubling are those with high levels of psychopathy, who are more likely to lie for no reason at all.

 


 

When you catch a partner with these traits in a lie, you might begin to sense that something doesn’t add up. These erosions of trust, whether big or small, can start to chip away at your sense of security.

 

2. Infidelity

 

It’s well-known that those high on the dark triad scale are more likely to cheat on romantic partners. Given their penchant for impulsivity, lack of care for others’ feelings, and ability to lie easily and often, this isn’t surprising. What’s more interesting is which traits in the dark triad lead to which types of infidelity outcomes.

 

When people with higher levels of psychopathy cheat, it tends to lead to a breakup. But when people who are a more Machiavellian cheat, they can manage to keep the relationship going. This might be because their strategic approach to everything lets them fly under the radar. Even when they get caught, they’re better able to manipulate their partner and may get off scot-free. In fact, you might find yourself wondering if you’re the bad guy when the boyfriend you just caught sexting with someone else says you’re the one driving him away by being too overbearing. Don’t fall for it! This is classic Machiavelli.

 

3. Jealousy and revenge

 

Those with the dark triad tend to have higher levels of preventive jealousy—that is, feeling jealous before they’ve been given reason to—than the average person.

 

One study found that those with the dark triad are not only more likely to have cheated on a partner but also expect to be cheated on. If they do find themselves in an unfaithful relationship; they’re more likely than the average person to want to take revenge, like shouting at their partner or spreading a rumor about them.

  

Interestingly, the dark triad women in this study said that even though they would want revenge, they wouldn’t necessarily end the relationship if their partner cheated. This speaks to wanting emotional control over their partner for control's sake rather than doing hurtful things only as an impulsive reaction.

 

4. Superficial relationships

 

Given their lack of true emotional devotion, people high on the dark triad scale doesn’t tend to choose serious, committed relationships.

 

Now there’s nothing wrong with flings, dating for fun, friends-with-benefits, and other not-so-serious “romances.” At different times in our lives, we have different needs, and most of us have probably had relationships that were never meant for a serious commitment.

 

But people with more dark triad traits tend to make a habit of emotionally shallow relationships, both romantically and with friends. Specifically, narcissism tends to go hand-in-hand with one-night-stands, and psychopathy tends to go with booty calls.

 

In friendships, Machiavellians look to befriend those with elite social status. Narcissists like to roll with a good-looking squad. Men with psychopathic traits are just like friends who can play wingmen and hook up with potential mates.

 


5. Relationships that don’t last

 

With all these not-so-glowing findings to recommend them, it’s no surprise that people with high dark triad traits don’t tend to have long-lasting relationships.

 

Even if they wanted to stay in a long-term relationship, people with the dark triad have a hard time making it last, perhaps because they are simply hard to get along with. The researchers who first coined the “dark triad” term noticed immediately that agreeableness—warmth, friendliness, tact—is the one thing most people with these traits lack.

 

The dark triad traits have gray gradations, and if you find yourself in a relationship with someone low on those scales, it might simply end with hurt feelings. But someone high on the rungs of psychopathy, narcissism, and Machiavellianism might cause you serious damage.

 

Medical Disclaimer: All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues. 

Red-flag behaviors


  1. What should a manager do after identifying such job candidates or employees? Over-claiming, or falsely taking credit for, contributions to the organization. (narcissism)

  2. Actively promoting themselves. (narcissism, Machiavellianism)

  3. Being aggressive after negative feedback and criticizing the source of feedback. (narcissism)

  4. Treating valued members of the organization (trophy colleagues) differently than those who do not boost their egos. (narcissism)

  5. Demonstrating a selfish perspective with a “choose your battles” mind-set. (Machiavellianism)

  6. Trying to control or minimize other people’s influence. (narcissism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy)

  7. Not sharing knowledge with colleagues. (Machiavellianism)

  8. Using manipulation to reach strategic goals. (Machiavellianism, psychopathy)

  9. Scheming for personal benefit without considering consequences for others. (narcissism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy)

  10. Competing rather than cooperating. (Machiavellianism, psychopathy)

  11. Making quick, short-term-focused decisions without considering consequences for others. (psychopathy)

  12. Making bold, risky decisions without regard to organizational rules or ethics. (narcissism, psychopathy)

  13. Questioning authority figures, rules, and the status quo. (psychopathy)

  14. Bullying or criticizing coworkers to focus on interpersonal relationships instead of tasks at hand. (psychopathy)

  15. Luring coworkers into wild behaviors or seducing coworkers or supervisors into romantic relationships. (Machiavellianism, psychopathy)

If you can avoid it, don’t hire them. If you have them, don’t promote them,” Schyns said.

How to get out of a relationship with a dark triad personality

It can be scary to realize that your partner has dark triad traits. At the same time, it might feel like a morbid relief to put the pieces together. Either way, if you find yourself finally understanding why you feel insecure, emotionally spent, or like you’ve been gaslit, it’s a good first step to changing your situation.

To safely get yourself out of a relationship with someone with dark triad traits, here are good places to start:

1. Surround yourself with supportive people

People with high dark triad levels are known for playing mind games and undercutting your confidence. Bolster your defenses with people you can trust to be in your corner who will believe what you say and offer you a safe emotional haven.

2. Get your affairs in order

In some tragic cases, people have lost their financial resources, independence to move around, or other important safety mechanisms during a messy breakup. 

Ideally, you'll want to secure:

  • An independent bank account
  • A safe place to physically go to
  • A private place to communicate with your supportive people
  • Anything else you may need to stay safe in case the other person acts recklessly

3. Make a clean break

Like Dua Lipa said, "Don't pick up the phone ... Don't let him in ... Don't be his friend."

You don’t need to keep justifying why you're leaving, especially if the other person is trying to excuse away your concerns or gaslight your feelings.

Commit to a clean break without giving in to crocodile tears that can seem convincing. Don’t linger in a shared living space. Don’t bargain. You don’t need to keep justifying why you're leaving, especially if the other person is trying to excuse away your concerns or gaslight your feelings.

4. Be compassionate with yourself

It’s so hard to be in a relationship (and to break up) with someone with dark triad traits. It’s not a sign of weakness or foolishness on your part that you got sucked in! Be kind to yourself. In extreme situations where safety is a concern, make sure you use your resources, including law enforcement, legal representation, and therapy.

It’s not a sign of weakness or foolishness on your part that you got sucked in!

You deserve to be respected and loved in a relationship, not lied to or manipulated. Now that you know the signs of the dark triad, you know how to spot a bad relationship in the making and get out before you get too deeply into it. And if you're already in it, don't be afraid to let go. You've got this!

Thanks

Jones, D. N., & Paulhus, D. L. (2012). Introducing the Short Dark Triad (SD3): A brief measure of dark personalities. Journal of Research in Personality, under revision.
Jade Wu, PhD

Dr. Jade Wu is a licensed clinical psychologist. She received her Ph.D. from Boston University and completed a clinical residency and fellowship at Duke University School of Medicine. 

Wednesday, March 3, 2021

What is Nystagmus?


Nystagmus is a condition that causes involuntary, rapid movement of one or both eyes. It often occurs with vision problems, including blurriness.

This condition is sometimes called “dancing eyes.”

The symptoms include fast, uncontrollable eye movements. The direction of movement determines the type of nystagmus:

  • Horizontal nystagmus involves side-to-side eye movements.
  • Vertical nystagmus involves up-and-down eye movements.
  • Rotary, or torsional, nystagmus involves circular movements.

These movements may occur in one or both eyes depending on the cause.

Nystagmus occurs when the part of the brain or inner ear that regulates eye movement and positioning doesn’t function correctly.

The labyrinth is the outer wall of the inner ear that helps you sense movement and position. It also helps control eye movements. The condition can be either genetic or acquired.

Infantile nystagmus syndrome

Congenital nystagmus is called infantile nystagmus syndrome (INS). It may be an inherited genetic condition. INS typically appears within the first six weeks to three months of a child’s life.

This type of nystagmus is usually mild and isn’t typically caused by an underlying health problem. In rare cases, a congenital eye disease could cause INS. Albinism is one genetic condition associated with INS.

Most people with INS won’t need treatment and don’t have complications later in life. In fact, many people with INS don’t even notice their eye movements. However, vision challenges are common.

Vision problems can range from mild to severe, and many people require corrective lenses or decide to have corrective surgery.

Acquired nystagmus

Acquired, or acute, nystagmus can develop at any stage of life. It often occurs due to injury or disease. Acquired nystagmus typically occurs due to events that affect the labyrinth in the inner ear.

Possible causes of acquired nystagmus include:

  • stroke
  • certain medications, including sedatives and antiseizure medications like phenytoin (Dilantin)
  • excessive alcohol consumption
  • head injury or trauma
  • diseases of the eye
  • diseases of the inner ear
  • B-12 or thiamine deficiencies
  • brain tumours
  • diseases of the central nervous system, including multiple sclerosis

See your doctor if you begin to notice symptoms of nystagmus. Acquired nystagmus always occurs due to an underlying health condition. You’ll want to determine what that condition is and how best to treat it.

How Do You Treat Nystagmus?

If you developed nystagmus as an adult, there may be simple things you can do to lessen its effects. Sometimes you may just have to stop a medicine or quit drinking alcohol or taking drugs.

 Wear the right contacts or glasses to improve vision. It won't cure nystagmus, but it can help with other eye problems that can make it worse.

 Eye muscle surgery may be an option. The goal is to help with the head tilt that often comes with nystagmus. Sometimes surgery improves vision, too.

 Some drugs may ease symptoms in adults but not children. These include the anti-seizure medicine gabapentin (Neurontin), the muscle relaxant baclofen (Lioresal), and onabotulinumtoxina (Botox).

 For people who are very nearsighted, LASIK or Visian ICL can help improve eyesight. The surgeon may advise you to take relaxation medication before the procedure to lessen the nystagmus.

 

 

Tips for Living With Nystagmus

There are things you can do at home to make it easier to deal with your "dancing eyes." Use large-print books and turn up the print size on your computer, tablet, and phone. More lighting may help with vision, too.

 

If your child has nystagmus, encourage them to use their eyes. Big and brightly colored toys are the easiest to use. Choose toys that make noise and have unique textures.

 

Let your child hold books close to their eyes with their head tilted. Let them wear a hat or tinted glasses -- even indoors -- to reduce glare.

 

Talk to your child's teacher to make things easier at school. It would be hard for them to share books or papers. Let them choose where to sit so they can see the board and the teacher.

What Is Prediabetes?

 



Prediabetes is a serious health condition where blood sugar levels are higher than normal, but not high enough yet to be diagnosed as a type 2 diabetes. Approximately 88 million American adults—more than 1 in 3—have prediabetes. Of those with prediabetes, more than 84% don’t know they have it. Prediabetes puts you at increased risk of developing type 2 diabetes, heart disease, and stroke.



What Causes Prediabetes?

Insulin is a hormone made by your pancreas that acts like a key to let blood sugar into cells for use as energy. If you have prediabetes, the cells in your body don’t respond normally to insulin. Your pancreas makes more insulin to try to get cells to respond. Eventually, your pancreas can’t keep up, and your blood sugar rises, setting the stage for prediabetes—and type 2 diabetes down the road.

 

Signs & Symptoms

You can have prediabetes for years but have no clear symptoms, so it often goes undetected until serious health problems such as type 2 diabetes show up. It’s important to talk to your doctor about getting your blood sugar tested if you have any of the risk factors for prediabetes, which include: 

 

  • Being overweight
  • Being 45 years or older
  • Having a parent, brother, or sister with type 2 diabetes
  • Being physically active less than 3 times a week
  • Ever having gestational diabetes (diabetes during pregnancy) or giving birth to a baby who weighed more than 9 pounds
  • Having polycystic ovary syndrome

Race and ethnicity are also a factor: African Americans, Hispanic/Latino Americans, American Indians, Pacific Islanders, and some Asian Americans are at higher risk.

How to Stop Prediabetes in Its Tracks

1. Get Tested

Not everyone with prediabetes will develop type 2 diabetes, but everyone with prediabetes is at higher-than-normal risk. So talk to your healthcare provider about determining your own risk and getting a simple blood test for diabetes screening. If necessary, find out what steps you should take right now to avoid or delay the development of type 2 diabetes and related medical conditions.

 2. Change Your Diet

If you have prediabetes, you can reduce your risk of developing more serious conditions by eating better and losing any excess weight. Eating better means choosing more healthful foods: fresh veggies and fruit; lean protein sources, including fish and plant options like lentils and beans; healthful fats like extra virgin olive oil, avocado, nuts and seeds; and smaller portions of fibre-rich whole grains and root vegetables. Eat a wide variety of these foods to broaden your nutrient intake and balance your meals. It's also important to eat regularly scheduled meals and snacks, to avoid extreme blood sugar highs and lows throughout the day.

 3. Reduce Toxic Stress Levels

Researchers have found that while short-term psychological stress can actually be good for you, chronic stress suppresses your immune system and could increase your risk of developing type 2 diabetes by altering your insulin needs. In some people, chronic stress may also trigger a cascade of hormonal events that increase appetite. While it’s not always possible to eliminate your source of stress, coping techniques, such as yoga, meditation, reading and writing poetry, counselling, or exercise, can help reduce overbearing pressure before it makes you sick.

 4. Get Moving

When you’re at risk of developing diabetes, too much TV time or other time spent in sedentary activities increases your risk even more. Regular exercise can help you manage your weight, reduce high blood pressure and blood fats, sleep better, improve your mood, and boost your energy levels, all of which can also help alleviate stress. The ADA recommends 30 minutes of moderate-to-vigorous aerobic exercise, such as brisk walking, stair climbing or jogging, at least 5 days a week, and strength training, such as callisthenics or weight training, at least twice a week.

 

5. Take Your Meds

In many cases, lifestyle changes such as improved diet, stress reduction, increased physical activity, and weight management will help you control your blood sugar and prevent prediabetes from turning into diabetes. But if you are obese, under 60 years old, or have a history of gestational diabetes, your healthcare provider may recommend oral medication, such as metformin, as the first best step toward managing your condition. If you feel you would benefit from medication, ask your doctor if you are a candidate.

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