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Tuesday, November 10, 2020
Addiction Cycle
Every Addiction, be it Alcohol, Opioids, Smoking or any other starts from having urge to take the substance.
Psychology of Success...
Dr. Prabodh
It is generally believed that Success is getting what you want. If you get what you want, you are successful. Success is usually gauged in terms of money, recognition, career, relationship, status, awards, etc.
Success for most means what others see you as... what others think about you! We think we are successful when people think we are successful. When people don't think we are successful, we too deny ourselves to be successful. There is an irresistible urge to prove our worth to the world. The urge to perform, to achieve is all about letting the world acknowledge it. All of us want to be successful... right from our childhood. The race of success begins with scoring good marks in school followed by pursuing and completing a professional course and then getting a well paid job... an endless list! Success is like hankering after ceaselessly.
You cannot be successful forever. That 'they happily lived forever' is an illusion. Everytime one succeeds, there is another milestone to be achieved for further success. Success is ephemeral. It is objective. It is a material entity which is quantifiable, which is numerically stated, which is objectively evaluated. Once a goal is achieved, it becomes the stepping stone to another goal. Success is like running behind the ever receding horizon. It would be interesting to ask questions to the one whom you consider to be successful. The person, at the pinnacle of success, might say that 'the best is yet to come'.
Life is a celebration and we need reasons to celebrate life. Unfortunately, we do not celebrate without reason. We need not celebrate only monumental success... We can celebrate day-to-day's trivial moments of trivial success. We should celebrate success everyday. We should find some reason to celebrate everyday. When we wake up in the morning and do not set some milestone, some goal or some target for the day, we may end up wasting our time. Success has measurability... something which can be measured. This measurability makes one feel that one is successful.
Success is an accomplishment of what one wants or expects. Targets should be realistic and not driven by one's ambition. One can achieve success by setting parameters even on one's death-bed. All that one needs is an attitude to succeed. Success involves seeking validation (of one's performance) and appreciation of others. Appreciation does not ensue without any reason. Performance is an expression of one's potential or the manifestation of one's personality. When such performance is appreciated , it becomes success. There is nothing wrong in seeking such validation as man is a social animal. We should endeavour to enjoy our success seeking validation and creating our self-image. However, when we start creating our self-image solely on the appreciation of others, we place our remote in other's hands who can manipulate and manuvere us. Eventually, we might lose our autonomy.
When we help others to be successful, we are paving the path of our own success. Both the King and the King-Maker are successful. However, the King is always at a risk of losing his kingdom. A King-Maker does not have anything to lose. A King-Maker is beyond success and failure.
Children can be inspired and motivated to create their milestones of success. We can inspire them only if we ourselves have trodden the path we want them to tread. However, children can be motivated by way of rewards and punishments. Success and Happiness are two separate entities which govern our existence. Not every success makes us happy...Not every happiness gives us success. At times, one wins while losing and loses while winning . When one succeeds, there is a compensating loss at some place which makes one say 'Am successful but am not happy'. Success is material; Success can be quantified. Happiness is spiritual; it can never be quantified. We need to be successful because we have to have aspirations ; we have to have motivation to manifest our potential. But we also need to be happy because that is the transformation we take ourselves to from the material world to the world beyond.
Success involves competition. One is successful when the competitors are left behind... while the ones left behind are failures. Sooner or later, one stops finding competitors outside and starts finding competitor inside. On this path of competing with oneself, one arrives at a destination where one does not want to compete with oneself anymore. This is contentment. One does not feel the urge to fight with oneself, to improve upon oneself. One thinks one has reached the level where now one can watch than act/do/perform/achieve/rise high. Sucess now becomes an irrelevant redundant parameter. Success /No Success ceases to exist. The urge to succeed is over. Such a contended person refuses to engage in the material world. He believes in being happy in the present moment.
Contentment is a continuous happiness. There is no uniform, universal definition of success. Success is delivering an expected performance. This expectation is based upon the assessment of one's potential. Potential exhibiting into performance which equals an anticipated performance is Success. We should not measure our success in terms of the failures of other. We should win not because the other has failed. We should win because we deserve to. Never get influenced by the definitions and the goalposts of others to feel successful.
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Monday, November 2, 2020
Anxiety disorder will impacts at all levels: mind, body, emotions, quality of life, relationships ...
- Detect irrational and non-functional thoughts, especially those that fuel discomfort.
- Rationalize emotions and leave space for them without blocking them. It's about understanding what they want to say, understanding their message to handle it much better.
- Practice deep breathing and relaxation techniques .
- Get some exercise on a day-to-day basis.
- Establish routines and leave spaces for leisure and mental rest.
- Accept that you cannot have control of everything that surrounds you and begin to assume that life is also made of uncertainties.
- The exposure therapy . In this case, it would imply bringing the person closer to those anxious stimuli (cats), to mediate cognitive and emotional reactions.
- Cognitive-behavioral therapy is the most suitable to enable the person in the proper management of phobias. Thanks to it, we can detect maladaptive thoughts, regulate emotions and incorporate more adjusted behaviors.
- Relaxation and breathing techniques are very suitable in these situations as well.
Thursday, October 29, 2020
“Dark” personality traits
The term dark personality is fairly self-explanatory. It refers to anyone with a less empathetic personality than others. These characters are negative because they display errant or even sociopathic behaviors.
The professional definition of the phrase goes deeper than the one above. Psychologists refer to it as the study of distinct personality types. They explore the Dark Triad, a subject that concentrates on the three negative traits of narcissism, Machiaveillanism, and psychopathy. These experts study, in addition, people with psychopathic and sociopathic tendencies.
"Psychologists have long discussed the idea that there exists a set of “dark” personality traits alongside the more benign Big Five — so much so, in fact, that one team of researchers argued that too much time had been spent pondering the darker side of human nature and that a “Light Triad” was needed to counteract it.
Key Points
The Dark Triad personality traits – narcissism, psychopathy and Machiavellianism – can be toxic and damaging in the workplace. But be aware that someone exhibiting these traits may initially be a high achiever and potentially charming, conscientious and achievement-oriented.
There are tools for identifying Dark Triad traits, but it is important to recognize that, unless you are also a skilled psychologist, you should not make a diagnosis on your own. If you do have any concerns about a team member's negative behaviors, you should raise them with your HR department. Your responsibility is to manage the impact of negative behaviors in the workplace, rather than try to diagnose and pin a psychological label on someone.
Conflict management, assertiveness and emotional intelligence skills will all be useful in managing someone with Dark Triad traits. However, given the risk these behaviors bring and their potential for causing serious damage to the organization, these behaviors must be addressed actively and vigorously
With thanks to Dr Peter Jonason, senior lecturer University of Western Sydney. For more information about the Dark Triad, visit www.peterjonason.com.
References
Hogan, R. (2007). Personality and the fate of organizations. Mahwah, NJ: Erlbaum.
Paulhus, D.L. (2014). Toward a taxonomy of dark personalities. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 23, 421– 426.
Paulhus, D. L., & Jones, D. N. (in press). Measures of dark personalities. In G. J. Boyle, D. H. Saklofske, & G. Matthews (Eds.), Measures of personality and social psychological constructs. San Diego, CA: Academic Press.
Thanks:
Robert Stonjek, https://www.psychologytoday.com/,https://www.mindtools.com/,https://www.learning-mind.com/
Friday, October 23, 2020
The extent to which our behavior is influenced by our genes.
"Many of us believe we are masters of own destiny, but new research is revealing the extent to which our behavior is influenced by our genes.
Robert Stonjek
Most people do not seek to cheat on their partner using likes , comments and intimate conversations in Social medias
- The profile of the digital infidel is someone with low self-esteem who needs quick reinforcement .
- We cannot forget that there are countless portals and applications enriching themselves precisely with this type of need. Emotional problems are a business for large Internet companies.
- Where am I in today's dating market? Another reason digital flirting is practiced is to see if one still has "potential." Am I still attractive? If I didn't have a partner now, could I find another one quickly? It is enough to enter certain pages or try your luck on social networks to find out.
- The digital universe is simpler than the real world. This is, without a doubt, another obvious question: the online world moves at a different pace, it has different rules and everything is more stimulating and, above all, fast. We sign up for certain applications to search for something specific, we enter groups with similar tastes ... All of this saves us from wasting time, navigating anonymity and obtaining what we want in no time.
What is Consciousness
The proposal to use psychedelics as a treatment for patients with consciousness disorders is based on the theoretical concept of brain complexity. The vertebrate brain is segregated into localized areas that differ in their structure and function, but perception and behavior require global integration of information from these multiple areas. Brain complexity is a measure of the interplay between segregation and integration, and can be defined as the extent to which individual neurons interact across multiple scales.
Saturday, October 10, 2020
Why are people who are poor more likely to have mental health issues?
An overwhelming majority of people with mental and psychosocial disabilities are living in poverty, poor physical health, and are subject to human rights violations.
Mental health issues cannot be considered in isolation from other areas of development, such as education, employment, emergency responses and human rights capacity building.
Sunday, August 9, 2020
The three stages that people go through in a time of crisis:
Cecile G. Tamura
Emergency, Regression, and Recovery.
In this chaotic year, many brands and businesses are relying on adrenaline only. Organizations can only run on those fumes for so long. Adrenaline-based speed can lead to burnout.
In the beginning, when the emergency becomes clear, team energy rises, and performance goes up. Almost all of us have unknown reserves. As the executives’ experiences reflect, this reaction feels full of purpose, and much gets done. Leaders tend to become the best version of themselves in this phase, and teams instinctively pull together and become highly productive. Few people question the leaders’ authority, and groups work in hectic but harmonious ways. The urgency created by the shock paves the way for rapid decision-making and turbocharges teams’ bias for action.
Then the second phase hits a regression phase, where people get tired, lose their sense of purpose, start fighting about the small stuff, and forget to do basic things like eat or drink — or they eat and drink too much.
The concept of regression comes from developmental psychology and describes how people roll back to a less mature stage when faced with pressure. Regression is one of the mind’s ways to defend itself from confusion and insecurity by retreating to an emotional comfort zone.
From combat psychology in particular, we know that regression is the most dangerous phase for teams. Soldiers' most stressful events don’t involve dangerous missions that require courage and action. They actually involve waiting: being in the middle of nowhere on a post, repairing equipment and handling administrative tasks, and being unable to use their particular skills. It turns out that boredom, lack of new experiences, and monotony can be much more stressful than combat.
For a leader, a crisis can be both the finest hour and the darkest day. Teams will remember their actions and decisions — good and bad — for years. So, as you navigate the waves of the crisis, remember that each phase requires a different approach. Sometimes the phases don’t come in a neat sequence, so think of them as currents and counter-currents speeding up or hindering your team’s progress.
Yes, you can succeed at first by leading from the front line. But after the first few weeks of emergency, take a step back and ensure your team gets through the inevitable regression phase. This phase is uncomfortable but also beneficial because the conflicts in the group can raise the most challenging questions, bring forth new answers, and reset expectations to more realistic levels. Only then can you start charting the road to recovery and emerge from the crisis as a stronger team and company.
Wednesday, May 27, 2020
Psychopath vs Sociopath - What's The Difference?
Traits of a Psychopath
Traits of a Sociopath
Who is More Dangerous?
Clues to a Psychopath or Sociopath in Childhood
- Aggression to people and animals
- Destruction of property
- Deceitfulness or theft
- Serious violations of rules or laws