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Saturday, June 27, 2020

மலர்தல்



நிலாவென
நான்
ஒளிர்வதாகக் கூறுகிறாய்
சூரியனாய் இருந்து கொண்டு

என்
நினைவின் அடுக்குகளில்
எத்தனையோ கதைகள்
பொதிந்துள்ளன

நிலா இரவுகள்
அன்று இருந்தது போல்
இல்லை

பால்யம்
கடந்த இந்த இரவுகளில்

பாட்டிகளின்
மரபில்
வந்து போன இளவரசனாய்

ஏழு குதிரைகளில்
நீ
வருகையில்

சூர்யகாந்தியாய்
மலர்கிறேன்

நிலா ஒளிரும் பொழுதிலும் .

Sakthi Jothi

Monday, June 22, 2020

மகாலட்சுமி நிரந்தரமாக வாசம் செய்யும் வேர்!



உங்க வீட்டை வீட்டு மகாலட்சுமி வெளியே செல்லாமல் இருக்க, இந்த வேரை தண்ணீரில் போட்டு வைத்தாலே போதும்.!!*_

ஒருவருடைய வீட்டில் மகாலட்சுமி நிரந்தரமாக வாசம் செய்து விட்டாலே போதும். நிம்மதிக்கு குறைவிருக்காது. இது நாம் எல்லோரும் அறிந்த ஒன்றுதான். இதற்காக நாம் பல பூஜைகளை செய்து வருகின்றோம். பல குறிப்புகளை பின்பற்றுகின்றோம். பணவரவிற்கு எத்தனையோ தந்திர, மந்திர வழிகளை எல்லாம் செய்கின்றோம். இருந்தும் சில பேருக்கு சில பரிகாரங்கள் பலன் அளிப்பதில்லை. எல்லோருக்கும் பலன் அளிக்கும் படியான ஒரு பரிகாரத்தை பற்றித்தான் இந்த பதிவின் மூலம் தெரிந்து கொள்ளப் போகின்றோம்.

இயற்கையான நல்ல வாசம் தரக்கூடிய ஒரு வேர், இந்த வேர். நம் வீட்டில் இருந்தால் நமக்கு அதிர்ஷ்டம் தான். வாசம் நிறைந்த இடம் என்றாலே அந்த இடத்தில் கட்டாயம் மகாலட்சுமி இருப்பாள் என்பது நாம் எல்லோருக்கும் தெரியும். இந்த வேரை முறையாக எப்படி பயன்படுத்தினால், நம் வீட்டில் சுபிட்சம் நிலைத்து நிற்கும் என்பதை பற்றியும், மகாலட்சுமியின் அம்சம் கொண்ட அந்த வேர் எது? என்பதைப் பற்றியும், அந்த வேரை நல்ல முறையில் நம் வீட்டில் எதற்கெல்லாம் பயன்படுத்தலாம் என்பதை பற்றியும் இந்த பதிவின் மூலம் தெரிந்து கொள்ளலாம்.

மகாலட்சுமி நிரந்தரமாக வாசம் செய்யும் அந்த வேர், வெட்டி வேர். இந்த வேர், சாதாரணமாக எல்லா நாட்டு மருந்து கடைகளிலும் கிடைக்கும். இதை வாங்கி எப்போதுமே வீட்டில் இருக்கும்படி பார்த்துக் கொள்வது மிகவும் நல்லது. உங்கள் வீட்டு பூஜை அறையில் ஒரு சிறிய கண்ணாடி டம்ளரில் சுத்தமான தண்ணீரை ஊற்றி, அதில் ஒரு எலுமிச்சை பழத்தையும் போட்டு, இந்த வேரையும் சிறிதளவு அந்த தண்ணீரில் போட்டு வைத்தால் போதும். அந்த வாசத்திற்கு நம்முடைய வீடு மிகவும் மங்களகரமாக இருக்கும். இந்த வாசத்தில் தான் மகா லட்சுமி நிரந்தரமாக குடி இருப்பாள் என்பதும் குறிப்பிடத்தக்க ஒன்று. இந்த தண்ணீரை வாரத்திற்கு ஒருமுறை மாற்றவேண்டும். எலுமிச்சை பழத்தையும் மாற்ற வேண்டும். தண்ணீரில் இருக்கும் வேர் கெட்டுப் போக வாய்ப்பில்லை. மாதத்திற்கு ஒருமுறை மாற்றினால் போதும்.

இதே போல் எந்த ஒரு கெட்ட சக்தியும், இந்த வேரிடம் நெருங்க முடியாது என்று சொல்லப்பட்டுள்ளது. சிறிதளவு வெட்டிவேரை எடுத்து, ஒரு சிறிய மஞ்சள் துணியில் கட்டி உங்கள் வீட்டு நிலை வாசற் படியில் கட்டி வைத்தாலே போதும். உங்கள் வீட்டிற்குள் எந்த ஒரு கெட்ட சக்தியும் நுழையாமல் இருக்கும்.

இந்த வெட்டிவேரை சிறிதளவு எடுத்து நன்றாக காயவைத்து அதன் பின்பு மிக்ஸியில் நன்றாக பொடி செய்து, சல்லடையில் சலித்து எடுத்துக்கொள்ள வேண்டும். சிறிதளவு வேப்பங் கொழுந்தையும், நன்றாக உலர வைத்து அரைத்து எடுத்துக் கொள்ளலாம். அதன்பின்பு, இந்த தூளை நெற்றியில் இட்டுக்கொள்ளும் விபூதியோடு கலந்து விடுங்கள். தினந்தோறும் அந்த விபூதியை நெற்றியில் வைத்துக் கொண்டு, வெளியே செல்லும் பட்சத்தில் நீங்கள் செல்லும் எந்த ஒரு நல்ல காரியமாக இருந்தாலும் அது வெற்றியில் முடியும் என்பது குறிப்பிடத்தக்க ஒன்று. இதோடு மட்டுமல்லாமல் கண் திருஷ்டியாக இருந்தாலும், எந்த ஒரு கெட்ட சக்தியும் நம்மை நெருங்காது என்பதும் உண்மை.

வெட்டிவேரில் சிறிதளவு தண்ணீர் ஊற்றி நன்றாக ஊறவைத்து அதன் பின்பு, அந்த தண்ணீரை வீட்டின் மூலை முடுக்குகளில் தெளித்து விட்டாலும், எதிர்மறை ஆற்றல் நீங்கும் என்று சொல்லப்பட்டுள்ளது. இப்படியாக வெட்டிவேரை சரியான முறையில் பயன்படுத்தும் பட்சத்தில், நம் வீட்டில் லட்சுமி கடாட்சம் நிறைந்து இருக்கும் என்பதில் எந்த ஒரு சந்தேகமும் இல்லை...

- சித்தர்களின் குரல் shiva shangar

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Thursday, June 18, 2020

Pranic Healing can cure Cancer

"A time will come when science will make tremendous advances, not because of better instruments for discovering things, but because a few people will have at their command great spiritual powers, which at the present are seldom used. Within a few centuries, the art of spiritual healing will be increasingly developed and universally used."
Astronomer, Man, Mind, and the Universe.
-Gustaf Stromberg, Mt. Wilson


Pranic Healing is a simple and efficient system of removing diseased energy and providing new regenerated energy, facilitating the patient's self-healing mechanism. Master Choa Kok Sui, its discoverer, observed that the human body is surrounded by a health aura, which in the case of deceased persons was depleted, ragged, unclean or unequally distributed around the physical body. This energy body, also known as the health aura, is directly connected to the physical body.
It is the physical body's insulation. It is only when it is in disarray, due to a multitude of reasons, that disease enters the physical body. Hence, Master Choa Kok Sui's system of Pranic Healing enables the reconstruction of the energy body for the betterment of the physical body. So that Prana, life, can flow in the human body without making room for disease.
Energy can be transformed



Science explains to us that energy can neither be created nor destroyed but can be transformed from one form to another. Think about what this could mean to you? If you can understand how to work with energy, it can help transform all the negative results in your life into positive results – sickness into well-being, lack into abundance, stress into the peace of mind and failing relationships into healthy, strong bonds.  


So since Pranic Healing uses energy, there is a lot more to it than just the healing part. It not only makes you aware of the aura around the human body – the ‘chakras’ (energy centres) and their effects on our health but also teaches us how to feel or scan the aura and determine which parts of the chakras may be affected. By learning about energy, we become more conscious about its ubiquitous presence, be it in people, buildings or even objects.

The Essence of Prana

What is the fundamental difference between a living and a dead person? Both people have a body, a set of organs and billions of cells. What differentiates them is an ‘unseen’ force that gives one person the awareness and consciousness to experience living while causing the other person or to experience a permanent black-out.  

Call it Breath of Life or Vitality of the Soul, Prana is the life-sustaining force found within the body of every living thing. Without Prana, we cease to exist as “living beings”.  

Grand Master Choa Kok Sui explains: “Life Energy or Prana is all around us. It is pervasive; we are actually in an ocean of Life Energy”

Principles Behind Pranic Science

The fundamental principles of Pranic Healing are

  • Principle of Self- Recovery – The innate ability of every living being to heal itself
  • Principle of Life Force – Healing process can be accelerated by increasing the pranic life force of the individual

How does it work?

Pranic Healing corrects imbalances in the body’s energy field and transfers life force to the patient. This life force can also be characterized as universal energy; it is not the healer’s energy. Trained Pranic Healers access and transmit universal energy to the patient using specific frequencies and techniques for specific diseases and conditions
Pranic Healing is done without touching.

Pranic Healing is a three-step process that substantially accelerates the body’s innate ability to heal at all levels: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual.


  • Checking - Scanning for energy abnormalities
  • Cleansing - Removing energy abnormalities: used to remove dirty or diseased energy in the body and to eradicate blockages in the energy channels
  • Replenishing and revitalizing with life force- Energizing: the transference of fresh ‘prana’ or life energy to the body and is applied once the cleansing process is completed. To give an example, when we cut our fingers or bruise our legs, our body automatically takes the necessary steps to prevent blood loss and repair the damaged tissues. Our bodies are constantly exposed to a variety of toxins, chemicals and pollutants from the environments we live in but our ‘in-built’ defence system fights of all these germs and protects us.   When we are healthy and happy, we feel all charged up and are full of energy. When we are sick or upset, we feel down or drained out. In other words, a healthy body has an abundance of prana while a sick or diseased body is low on prana. The healing process of an individual is accelerated by increasing the prana life force in them which is readily available from the sun, air and earth.

Some Benefits of Pranic Healing


  • In cases of fever, parents can bring down the temperature of their children in just a few hours
  • Coughs and colds can usually be alleviated in a day
  • Major illnesses such as eye, liver, kidney, and heart problems can be partially or substantially relieved in a few sessions
  • Improved health and increased stamina
  • Inner peace and happiness
  • Better memory and concentration
  • Rapid spiritual growth
  • Reduced stress
  • Better interpersonal skills
  • Greater self-esteem
  • Attain the ability to attract good luck and become more prosperous

https://www.worldpranichealing.com/

Research

Objectives: The objective was to explore the effect of a Japanese energy healing method known as Johrei on the viability and proliferation of cultured human cancer cells in vitro.
Design: A randomly selected 96-well plate or a culture dish of various types of human cancer cell lines in culture were exposed to Johrei treatment. For comparison purpose, an equal number of untreated or volunteer-treated cultures were chosen as the control group. Johrei treatment was repeatedly performed at appropriate time intervals over the course of the experiments. Cell viability was examined by a colourimetric assay with a Cell Counting kit. Morphological changes were analyzed by phase-contrast and time-lapse microscopy. Cell proliferation and early and late stages of cell death were also determined with the use of a bromodeoxyuridine (BrdU) cell proliferation assay kit and an Annexin V-FLUOS Staining kit, respectively.
Outcome measures: Quantitative data were presented as means±standard deviation. The outcome measures were the differences in viable cell numbers that remained under healing practice versus control conditions, and the statistical significance of differences in their mean values was assessed.
Results: The viability loss of cultured human cancer cells in the Johrei group was significantly higher than that of either of the control groups, despite the fact that the responsiveness to Johrei varied with different cancer cell types. The proliferation rate of gastric cancer cells exposed to Johrei treatments for 72 hours was more significantly decreased compared with that of the untreated cells, whereas the extent of dying and/or dead cells in the Johrei group was more profound than that of the untreated cells.
Conclusions: These results provide evidence that Johrei treatment induces the viability loss of various cancer cells in vitro, mainly due to the increased cell death and the decreased proliferation.
A natural energy healing technique called Reiki (Japanese Healing Method) and Mexican healing (ancient Egyptian healing method) used to heal stage 4 liver cancer patient
The efforts put in my healer was just 36 hours to heal the patient and destroy the cancer cells. The total duration of the healing was 2 months.
I will be discussing the below topics
  • Challenges faced during the healing
  • How energy healing works to heal cancer naturally
  • Healing Methods used to heal the cancer
  • Products/Procedures used to heal the cancer
  • Recovery of the patient during the healing period.

Biography:

Vivek Kamath is a software engineer by profession worked as a freelancer in many international banks across the globe. Vivek has executed many large International banking Information Technology projects in UK, USA, GERMANY, SINGAPORE, BAHRAIN, AUSTRALIA, JAPAN AND INDIA.
Vivek is a Reiki Master cum practitioner from the last 8 years and also alternative therapy experts in Mexican healing, Melchizedek healing, crystal healing and past life regression therapy.
Vivek Kamath has healed 3 Stage 4 cancer (throat, liver and breast cancer) till date. He has also healed Diabetes TYPE1, TYPE2, TYPE 3/LADA, removed heart blocks, kidney diseases, glaucoma, removed womb cysts, kidney stones, sciatica pain healing, lumbar l5 pain healing, rheumatoid arthritis, obesity disorders, knee transplant pain, migraine, sinusitis, constipation, depression, schizophrenia. Phobia, addiction cases, learning disability in kids, thyroid problems, kidney dialysis, irregular periods in women, asthma, cholesterol, high and low blood pressure, erectile dysfunction in men.
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Sunday, June 7, 2020

The zoonotic origins of pandemics

The disease emergence model above provides a construct for how pathogens emerge from animals and illustrates the continuum of animal pathogen infectivity in the human population. However, relatively little is known about the factors that mediate transition from one stage to the next as a pathogen of animal origin scales the stages of this paradigm Figure1, ever increasing its ability to reside in the human population and be transmitted throughout it. What is known, however, is that the interface between humans and animals is of paramount importance in the process. As we increase our interactions with animals through hunting, the trading of animal foods, animal husbandry practices, wet markets, and the domestication of animals or exotic pets, the probability of cross-species transmission dramatically increases.

Zoonotic disease emergence model outlining the 5 stages of pathogen emergence from animals to humans.

Wednesday, May 27, 2020

Psychopath vs Sociopath - What's The Difference?


Most experts believe psychopaths and sociopaths share a similar set of traits. People like this have a poor inner sense of right and wrong. They also can’t seem to understand or share another person’s feelings. But there are some differences, too.

Psychopathy and sociopathy are different cultural labels applied to the diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder. Up to 3 per cent of the population may qualify for a diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder. This disorder is more common among males and mostly seen in people with an alcohol or substance abuse problem, or in forensic settings such as prisons. Psychopaths tend to be more manipulative, can be seen by others as more charming, lead a semblance of a normal life, and minimize risk in criminal activities. Sociopaths tend to be more erratic, rage-prone, and unable to lead as much of a normal life. When sociopaths engage in criminal activity, they tend to do so in a reckless manner without regard to consequences.


Traits of a Psychopath

Psychology researchers generally believe that psychopaths tend to be born — it’s likely a genetic predisposition — while sociopaths tend to be made by their environment. (Which is not to say that psychopaths may not also suffer from some sort of childhood trauma.) Psychopathy might be related to physiological brain differences. Research has shown psychopaths have underdeveloped components of the brain commonly thought to be responsible for emotion regulation and impulse control.
Psychopaths, in general, have a hard time forming real emotional attachments with others. Instead, they form artificial, shallow relationships designed to be manipulated in a way that most benefits the psychopath. People are seen as pawns to be used to forward the psychopath’s goals. Psychopaths rarely feel guilt regarding any of their behaviours, no matter how much they hurt others.
But psychopaths can often be seen by others as being charming and trustworthy, holding steady, normal jobs. Some even have families and seemingly-loving relationships with a partner. While they tend to be well-educated, they may also have learned a great deal on their own.
When a psychopath engages in criminal behaviour, they tend to do so in a way that minimizes risk to themselves. They will carefully plan a criminal activity to ensure they don’t get caught, having contingency plans in place for every possibility.
Psychopath Pop Culture Examples: Dexter, Anton Chigurh in No Country for Old Men, Henry in Henry: Portrait of a Serial Killer, Patrick Bateman in American Psycho

Traits of a Sociopath

Researchers tend to believe that sociopathy is the result of environmental factors, such as a child or teen’s upbringing in a very negative household that resulted in physical abuse, emotional abuse, or childhood trauma.
Sociopaths, in general, tend to be more impulsive and erratic in their behaviour than their psychopath counterparts. While also having difficulties in forming attachments to others, some sociopaths may be able to form an attachment to a like-minded group or person. Unlike psychopaths, most sociopaths don’t hold down long-term jobs or present much of normal family life to the outside world.
When a sociopath engages in criminal behaviour, they may do so in an impulsive and largely unplanned manner, with little regard for the risks or consequences of their actions. They may become agitated and angered easily, sometimes resulting in violent outbursts. These kinds of behaviours increase sociopath’s chances of being apprehended.
Sociopath Pop Culture Examples: The Joker in The Dark Knight, JD in Heathers, Alex Delarge in A Clockwork Orange

Who is More Dangerous?

Both psychopaths and sociopaths present risks to society, because they will often try and live a normal life while coping with their disorder. But psychopathy is likely the more dangerous disorder because they experience a lot less guilt connected to their actions.
A psychopath also has a greater ability to dissociate from their actions. Without emotional involvement, any pain that others suffer is meaningless to a psychopath. Many famous serial killers have been psychopaths.
Not all people we’d call a psychopath or sociopath are violent. Violence is not a necessary ingredient (nor is it for a diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder) — but it is often present.

Clues to a Psychopath or Sociopath in Childhood

Clues to psychopathy and sociopathy are usually available in childhood. Most people who can later be diagnosed with sociopathy or psychopathy have had a pattern of behaviour where they violate the basic rights or safety of others. They often break the rules (or even laws) and societal norms as a child, too.
Psychologists call these kinds of childhood behaviours a  Conduct disorder.
 Conduct disorders involve four categories of problem behaviour:
  • Aggression to people and animals
  • Destruction of property
  • Deceitfulness or theft
  • Serious violations of rules or laws
If you recognize these symptoms in a child or young teen, they’re at greater risk for antisocial personality disorder.
Thank:https://psychcentral.com/

What makes a serial serial Murderer? ஒரு சீரியல் கொலையாளி எப்படி உருவெடுக்கிறான்?



It is intrinsic to the human survival mechanism that we have this capacity to repeatedly kill. Killers are anachronisms whose primal instincts are not being moderated by the more intellectual parts of our brain.

Perhaps it’s not that serial killers are made, but that the majority of us are unmade, by good parenting and socialization. What remains behind is these un-fully-socialized beings with this capacity to attack and kill. And often that capacity is grafted onto a sexual impulse – aggression sexualized at puberty.

Many serial killers are survivors of early childhood trauma of some kind – physical or sexual abuse, family dysfunction, emotionally distant or absent parents. Trauma is the single recurring theme in the biographies of most killers.

­Intense study in the field of serial murder has resulted in two ways of classifying serial killers: one based on motive and one based on organizational and social patterns. The motive method is called Holmes typology, for Ronald M. and Stephen T. Holmes, authors of numerous textbooks on serial murder and violent crime. Not every serial killer falls into a single type, and many are more than one type. Neither of these classifications explains what might actually lead someone to become a serial killer (more on this later). There is not enough scientific data upon which to base these classifications, either -- they are based on anecdotal and interview data. Critics of the Holmes typology point to this as a flaw, but many investigators still find the method useful when studying serial murder.

­Acc­ording to Holmes typology, serial killers, can be act-focused (who kill quickly), or process-focused (who kill slowly). For act-focused killers, killing is simply about the act itself. Within this group, there are two different types: the visionary and the missionary. The visionary murders because he hears voices or has visions that direct him to do so. The missionary murders because he believes that he is meant to get rid of a particular group of people.

What exactly is psychopathy?

The number one trait of a psychopath is a lack of empathy. Others are a tendency to lie, a need for thrills – psychopaths become bored very quickly – and narcissism. But the lack of empathy is the biggest thing.

One common explanation is that psychopaths experience some kind of trauma in early childhood – perhaps as early as their infant state – and as a consequence suppress their emotional response. They never learn the appropriate responses to trauma, and never develop other emotions, which is why they find it difficult to empathize with others.

They grow up not knowing how to “feel”, and learn instead how to manifest what they think are emotions or the correct appearances of emotion. They know the “mask” they should wear.

In the case of serial killers, that’s why there are individuals who can raise a family, be what most people would consider a good spouse and parent, and at the same time have secret second lives where they go out and kill strangers. They can compartmentalize.

Thanks, https://www.theguardian.com/,https://people.howstuffworks.com/

Friday, May 22, 2020

Kafkaesque

“Kafkaesque” describes as the Oxford Dictionaries would put it, “oppressive or nightmarish qualities,” or as Merriam-Webster suggests, “having a nightmarishly complex, bizarre, or illogical quality.

What’s Kafkaesque is when you enter a surreal world in which all your control patterns, all your plans, the whole way in which you have configured your own behaviour, begins to fall to pieces, when you find yourself against a force that does not lend itself to the way you perceive the world. You don’t give up, you don’t lie down and die. What you do is a struggle against this with all of your equipment, with whatever you have. But of course, you don’t stand a chance. That’s Kafkaesque.



According to Wikipedia, the term Kafkaesque is “an eponym used to describe concepts, situations, and ideas which are reminiscent of the literary work of the Austro-Hungarian writer Franz Kafka,” and in 2010, people pretty much think they can apply the term to just about anything.



Is the over-usage a symptom of our strange times, or are people just too lazy to search for a better term?  Maybe these ten examples will help figure that out.
1.  Estate tax.  Nothing makes me think of The Trial quite like estate tax.
2.  Zombies. They can totally be Kafkaesque: “” What I wake up into is one of the worst days any human should wake up to. It’s a Kafka-esque nightmare. I wanted to make it as truthful and as real to me as possible.”
3.  Television shows that everybody seems to be talking about, like Breaking Bad.
4.  Politics in India.
5. No-fly and watch lists, are, yup, you guessed it.
6. “Dilbert lives in a Kafkaesque world of bureaucracy.”
7.  Would you date a person whose writing style on a dating website registers as Kafkaesque?
8.  Wondering if Asian women are attracted to Western men.
9.  All of these movies.
10. Nobel laureate, Mario Vargas Llosa, describing the commute from  New Jersey to New York during rush hour: “It’s very nice. But not if you take the train at 5 or 6 o’clock. It can be a Kafkaesque commute.”
Thanks
https://lithub.com/a-kafkaesque-list-of-things-described-as-kafkaesque/
http://jewcy.com/jewish-arts-and-culture/books/top-ten-favorite-examples-of-kafkaesque

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Wednesday, May 13, 2020

Art of Seduction by Robert Greene Book(Summary Notes )

Summary Notes

“Seduction is a game of psychology, not beauty, and it is within the grasp of any person to become a master at the game. All that is required is that you look at the world differently, through the eyes of a seducer.”

“What will seduce a person is an effort we expend on their behalf, showing how much we care, how much they are worth.”

“Seducers take pleasure in performing and are not weighed down by their identity, or by some need to be themselves, or to be natural.”

“Every seduction has two elements that you must analyze and understand: first, yourself and what is seductive about you; and second, your target and the actions that will penetrate their defences and create surrender.”

The Seductive Character

Successful seduction starts with who you are and the type of seductive energy you express. It requires creating yourself, or refining yourself, in one of the seducer categories.

  • Sirens have an abundance of sexual energy and know-how to use it.
  • They lure in their targets, like the sirens of Odysseus, through their image and teases. Crafting the perfect seductive pose for their target.
  • Rakes insatiably adore the opposite sex, and their desire is infectious.
  • Unlike the normal, cautious male, the Rake is delightfully unrestrained, a slave to his love of women. There is the added lure of his reputation: so many women have succumbed to him, there has to be a reason.
  • Remember: it is the form that matters, not the content. The less your targets focus on what you say, and the more on how it makes them feel, the more seductive your effect. Give your words a lofty, spiritual, literary flavour the better to insinuate desire in your unwitting victims.
  • To play the Rake, the most obvious requirement is the ability to let yourself go, to draw a woman into the kind of purely sensual moment in which past and future lose meaning. You must be able to abandon yourself to the moment.
  • If no obstacles face you, you must create them. Seduction requires obstacle.
  • Ideal Lovers have an aesthetic sensibility that they apply to romance.
  • Casanova was perhaps the most successful seducer in history; few women could resist him. His method was simple: on meeting a woman, he would study her, go along with her moods, find out what was missing in her life, and provide it. He made himself the Ideal Lover.
  • But appeal to their better selves, to a higher standard of beauty, and they will hardly notice that they have been seduced. Make them feel elevated, lofty, spiritual, and your power over them will be limitless.
  • Talleyrand simply held up a mirror to Napoleon and let him glimpse that possibility. People are always vulnerable to insinuations like this, which stroke their vanity almost everyone’s a weak spot. Hint at something for them to aspire to, reveal your faith in some untapped potential you see in them, and you will soon have them eating out of your hand.
  • Dandies like to play with their image, creating a striking and androgynous allure.
  • Most of us feel trapped within the limited roles that the world expects us to play. We are instantly attracted to those who are more fluid, more ambiguous than we are— those who create their own persona. Dandies excite us because they cannot be categorized, and hint at a freedom we want for ourselves.
  • Dandies seduce socially as well as sexually; groups form around them, their style is wildly imitated, an entire court or crowd will fall in love with them. In adapting the Dandy character for your own purposes, remember that the Dandy is by nature a rare and beautiful flower. Be different in ways that are both striking and aesthetic, never vulgar; poke fun at current trends and styles, go in a novel direction, and be supremely uninterested in what anyone else is doing. Most people are insecure; they will wonder what you are up to, and slowly they will come to admire and imitate you because you express yourself with total confidence.
  • Naturals are spontaneous and open.
  • Coquettes are self-sufficient, with a fascinating cool at their core.
  • Coquettes seem totally self-sufficient: they do not need you, they seem to say, and their narcissism proves devilishly attractive.
  • People are inherently perverse. An easy conquest has a lower value than a difficult one; we are only really excited by what is denied us, by what we cannot possess in full. Your greatest power in seduction is your ability to turn away, to make others come after you, delaying their satisfaction.
  • To understand the peculiar power of the Coquette, you must first understand a critical property of love and desire: the more obviously you pursue a person, the more likely you are to chase them away.
  • Self-esteem is critical in seduction. (Your attitude toward yourself is read by the other person in subtle and unconscious ways.) Low self-esteem repels, confidence and self-sufficiency attract. The less you seem to need other people, the more likely others will be drawn to you.
  • Charmers want and know how to please— they are social creatures.
  • Charmers do not argue or fight, complain, or pester— what could be more seductive?
  • First, they don’t talk much about themselves, which heightens their mystery and disguises their limitations. Second, they seem to be interested in us, and their interest is so delightfully focused that we relax and open up to them. Finally, Charmers are pleasant to be around. They have none of most people’s ugly qualities— nagging, complaining, self-assertion.
  • Charismatics have unusual confidence in themselves.
  • Learn to create the charismatic illusion by radiating intensity while remaining detached.
  • Creating the air of charisma:
  • Purpose. If people believe you have a plan, that you know where you are going, they will follow you instinctively The direction does not matter: pick a cause, an idea, a vision and show that you will not sway from your goal. Mystery. The mystery lies at charisma’s heart, but it is a particular kind of mystery— a mystery expressed by contradiction, by having conflicting traits. Saintliness. Most of us must compromise constantly to survive; saints do not. They must live out their ideals without caring about the consequences. The saintly effect bestows charisma. Eloquence. A Charismatic relies on the power of words. Theatricality. A Charismatic is larger than life, has an extra presence. Uninhibitedness. Most people are repressed and have little access to their unconscious— a problem that creates opportunities for the Charismatic, who can become a kind of screen on which others project their secret fantasies and longings. Fervency. You need to believe in something, and to believe in it strongly enough for it to animate all your gestures and make your eyes light up. Vulnerability. Charismatics display a need for love and affection.Adventurousness. Charismatics are unconventional. Magnetism. If any physical attribute is crucial in seduction, it is the eyes. They reveal excitement, tension, detachment, without a word being spoken.
  • People do not want to hear that your power comes from years of effort or discipline. They prefer to think that it comes from your personality, your character, something you were born with.
  • Stars are ethereal and envelop themselves in mystery.
  • People are hopelessly susceptible to myth, so make yourself the hero of a great drama. And keep your distance— let people identify with you without being able to touch you. They can only watch and dream.
  • First, you must have such a large presence that you can fill your target’s mind the way a close-up fills the screen.
  • Second, cultivate a blank, mysterious face, the centre that radiates Stars.
  • The Anti-Seducer: those who repel
  • Anti-Seducers come in many shapes and kinds, but almost all of them share a single attribute, the source of their repellence: insecurity.
  • It is critical to recognize anti-seductive qualities not only in others but also in ourselves. Almost all of us have one or two of the Anti-Seducer’s qualities latent in our character, and to the extent that we can consciously root them out, we become more seductive.
  • The Brute: Who has no patience, who wants to skip the seduction, who offends with egotism.
  • The Suffocation: Those who cling incessantly to you, love you before you know who they are, or who make themselves a doormat to you in their obsession.
  • The Moralizer: Who wants you to bend to their standard.
  • The Tightwad: Cheapness displays more insecurity beyond money.
  • The Bumbler: The awkward speaker, who makes others feel awkward too.
  • The Windbag: Who won’t shut up.
  • The Reactor: Who is terrified to have their ego damaged.
  • The Vulgarian: Who ignores the rules of the game, presents a garish image, does not play the game and yet expects to win.
  • It is rather because wordless communication (through clothes, gestures, actions) is the most pleasurable, exciting, and seductive form of language.

The 18 Types of Seducer Victims

Never try to seduce your own type.

People are constantly giving out signals of what they lack, you have to tune in to these signals and interpret their type based on them.

  1. The Reformed Rake or Siren: They desperately long to escape whatever corralled them in, what is preventing them from being their normal freely sexual self.
  2. The Disappointed Dreamer: They long for adventure, but are stuck in a boring lifestyle.
  3. The Pampered Royal: The long to be swept off their feet by a prince charming and let them live out their fantasy of being pampered and treated like royalty.
  4. The New Prude: excessively concerned with their outward appearance, underneath they want to release, but they fear judgement. They must feel like they’re sharing some secret with you…
  5. The Crushed Star: No longer the centre of attention, they long to have that sense of being adored back.
  6. The Novice: They want to at least feel that you’re somewhat “young” too, but are also excited by the possibility of being introduced to a new, darker world…
  7. The Conquerer: You must give them an obstacle to overcome, a mission, a goal.
  8. The Exotic Fetishist: They want novelty, new experiences, things on the edge, you must position yourself as something exotic.
  9. The Drama Queen: They long for drama in their lives, so you’ll need to help create it in order to keep them rapt.
  10. The Professor: They analyze and think deeply about everything, but long to be overwhelmed by a more free spirit who can help them release their mental barrier.
  11. The Beauty: Used to being appreciated, you must focus on the less complimented features like her intellect or wit.
  12. The Aging Baby: Still immature and wanting a supportive parent, you must enable their childish desires while still occasionally reeling them in.
  13. The Rescuer: They long to feel like they’re saving someone from themselves, you must make them feel that they can “save” you from something and they will become obsessed. Let her be your maternal protector.
  14. The Roué: Experienced in life, they desire to educate someone more naive.
  15. The Idol Worshipper: You must become their object of worship that provides the meaning in life that they seek.
  16. The Sensualist: Driven by their senses, you must overwhelm their site, smell, and touch, to fully draw them in.
  17. The Lonely Leader: Act as their equal or superior, the kind of relationship they rarely have.
  18. The Floating Gender: Float with them.

Seduction Phase 1: Separation, Stirring Interest and Desire

  1. Choosing the right victim
  2. The right victims are those for whom you can fill a void, who see in you something exotic.
  3. To leave people who are inaccessible to you alone is a wise path; you cannot seduce everyone.
  4. Never rush into the waiting arms of the first person who seems to like you. That is not seduction but insecurity.
  5. People who are outwardly distant or shy are often better targets than extroverts. They are dying to be drawn out, and still waters run deep.
  6. On the other hand, you should generally avoid people who are preoccupied with business or work— seduction demands attention, and busy people have too little space in their minds for you to occupy.
  7. Creating a False Sense of Security, Approach Indirectly
  8. Once you have chosen the right victim, you must get his or her attention and stir desire. To move from friendship to love can win success without calling attention to itself as a manoeuvre.
  9. First, your friendly conversations with your targets will bring you valuable information about their characters, their tastes, their weaknesses, the childhood yearnings that govern their adult behaviour.
  10. Second, by spending time with your targets you can make them comfortable with you.
  11. Then, surprise their expectations with an errant touch or suggestion, make them now interested.
  12. There is nothing more effective in seduction than making the seduced think that they are the ones doing the seducing.
  13. The first move to master is simple: once you have chosen the right person, you must make the target come to you.
  14. Too much attention early on will actually just suggest insecurity and raise doubts as to your motives. Worst of all, it gives your targets no room for imagination. Take a step back; let the thoughts you are provoking come to them as if they were their own.
  15. In all areas of life, you should never give the impression that you are angling for something— that will raise a resistance that you will never lower. Learn to approach people from the side.
  16. Send Mixed Signals
  17. What is obvious and striking may attract their attention at first, but that attention is often short-lived; in the long run, ambiguity is much more potent. Most of us are much too obvious —instead, be hard to figure out.
  18. To deepen their interest, you must hint at a complexity that cannot be grasped in a week or two.
  19. If you have a sweet face and an innocent air, let out hints of something dark, even vaguely cruel in your character.
  20. Appear to Be an Object of Desire: Create Triangles
  21. You see a man alone, whom nobody talks to for any length of time, and who is wandering around without company; isn’t there a kind of self-fulfilling isolation about him? Why is he alone, why is he avoided? There has to be a reason.
  22. When people’s vanity is at risk, you can make them do whatever you want. According to Stendhal, if there is a woman you are interested in, pay attention to her sister. That will stir a triangular desire.
  23. Men who believe that a rakish reputation will make women fear or distrust them, and should be played down, are quite wrong. On the contrary, it makes them more attractive.
  24. Create a need, stir anxiety and discontent
  25. People are always susceptible to being seduced, because in fact everyone lacks a sense of completeness, feels something missing deep inside. Bring their doubts and anxieties to the surface and they can be led and lured to follow you.
  26. Make people anxious about the future, make them depressed, make them question their identity, make them sense the boredom that gnaws at their life. The ground is prepared. The seeds of seduction can be sown.
  27. Master the Art of Insinuation
  28. There is no known defence, however, against insinuation— the art of planting ideas in people’s minds by dropping elusive hints that take root days later, even appearing to them as their own idea. Make everything suggestive.
  29. Enter Their Spirit
  30. Play by their rules, enjoy what they enjoy, adapt yourself to their moods. In doing so you will stroke their deep-rooted narcissism and lower their defences.
  31. Create Temptation
  32. As the serpent tempted Eve with the promise of forbidden knowledge, you must awaken a desire in your targets that they cannot control. Find that weakness of theirs, that fantasy that has yet to be realized, and hint that you can lead them toward it.
  33. Find that childhood insecurity, that lack in their life, and you hold the key to tempting them. Their weakness may be greed, vanity, boredom, some deeply repressed desire, a hunger for forbidden fruit. They signal it in little details that elude their conscious control: their style of clothing, an offhand comment.

Phase 2: Lead Astray — Creating Pleasure and Confusion

  1. Keep Them In Suspense, what comes next?
  2. Behave in a way that leaves them wondering, What are you up to? Doing something they do not expect from you will give them a delightful sense of spontaneity— they will not be able to foresee what comes next.
  3. There are all kinds of calculated surprises you can spring on your victims— sending a letter from out of the blue, showing up unexpectedly, taking them to a place they have never been. But best of all are surprises that reveal something new about your character.
  4. Reliability is fine for drawing people in, but stay reliable and you stay a bore. Dogs are reliable, a seducer is not.
  5. Use the Demonic Power of Words to Sow Confusion
  6. Inflame people’s emotions with loaded phrases, flatter them, comfort their insecurities, envelop them in fantasies, sweet words, and promises, and not only will they listen to you, but they will also lose their Will to resist you.
  7. A woman was beautiful, yet lacked confidence in her own wit and intelligence? He made sure to say that he was bewitched not by her beauty but by her mind.
  8. Pay Attention to Detail
  9. Poeticize Your Presence
  10. You can be dangerous, naughty, even somewhat vulgar, depending on the tastes of your victim. But never be ordinary or limited. In poetry (as opposed to reality), anything is possible.
  11. The only thing that cannot be idealized is mediocrity, but there is nothing seductive about mediocrity. There is no possible way to seduce without creating some kind of fantasy and poeticization.
  12. Disarm Through Strategic Weakness and Vulnerability
  13. The best way to cover your tracks is to make the other person feel superior and stronger. If you seem to be weak, vulnerable, enthralled by the other person, and unable to control yourself, you will make your actions look more natural, less calculated.
  14. Remember: what is natural to your character is inherently seductive. A person’s vulnerability, what they seem to be unable to control, is often what is most seductive about them.
  15. A woman, for instance, maybe attracted by a man’s strength and self-confidence, but too much of it can create fear, seeming unnatural, even ugly.
  16. Confuse Desire and Reality— The Perfect Illusion
  17. Your task as a seducer is to bring some flesh and blood into someone’s fantasy life by embodying a fantasy figure or creating a scenario resembling that person’s dreams.
  18. Isolate the Victim
  19. Separate them from their environment physically, emotionally, and mentally, so they can become further engrossed with you.

Phase 3: The Precipice, deepening the effect through extreme measures

  1. Prove Yourself
  2. Do not worry about looking foolish or making a mistake— any kind of deed that is self-sacrificing and for your targets’ sake will so overwhelm their emotions, they won’t notice anything else.
  3. Cleverly lead your victim into a crisis, a moment of danger, or indirectly put them in an uncomfortable position, and you can play the rescuer, the gallant knight.
  4. Effect a Regression
  5. Stir Up the Transgressive and Taboo
  6. Making your targets feel that you are leading them past either kind of limit is immensely seductive. People yearn to explore their dark side.
  7. But we are strange animals: the moment any kind of limit is imposed, physically or psychologically, we are instantly curious. A part of us wants to go beyond that limit, to explore what is forbidden.
  8. The most blatant way to do this is to engage in behaviour that gives you a dark and forbidden aura. Theoretically, you are someone to avoid; in fact, you are too seductive to resist.
  9. Use Spiritual Lures
  10. Everyone has doubts and insecurities —about their body, their self-worth, their sexuality. If your seduction appeals exclusively to the physical, you will stir up these doubts and make your targets self-conscious. Instead, lure them out of their insecurities by making them focus on something sublime and spiritual: a religious experience, a lofty work of art, the occult.
  11. Mix Pleasure with Pain
  12. Lure them in with focused attention, then change direction, appearing suddenly uninterested. Make them feel guilty and insecure. Even instigate a breakup, subjecting them to an emptiness and pain that will give you room to manoeuvre
  13. Your seduction should never follow a simple course upward toward pleasure and harmony. The climax will come too soon, and the pleasure will be weak. What makes us intensely appreciate something is the previous suffering.
  14. Without tension, without anxiety and suspense, there can be no feeling of release, of true pleasure and joy. It is your task to create that tension in the target, to stimulate feelings of anxiety, to lead them to and fro, so that the culmination of the seduction has real weight and intensity. So rid yourself of your nasty habit of avoiding conflict, which is in any case unnatural. You are most often nice not out of your own inner goodness but out of fear of displeasing, out of insecurity.

Phase 4: Move in for the kill

  1. Give Them Space to Fall— The Pursuer Is Pursued
  2. Stir the pot by seeming interested in someone else. Make none of this explicit; let them only sense it and their imagination will do the rest, creating the doubt you desire.
  3. Understand: a person’s willpower is directly linked to their libido, their erotic desire. When your victims are passively waiting for you, their erotic level is low. When they turn pursuer, getting involved in the process, brimming with tension and anxiety, the temperature is raised.
  4. Use Physical Lures
  5. While your cool, nonchalant air is calming their minds and lowering their inhibitions, your glances, voice, and bearing— oozing sex and desire— are getting under their skin, agitating their senses and raising their temperature.
  6. Second, be alert to the signs of physical excitation. Blushing, trembling of the voice, tears, unusually forceful laughter, relaxing movements of the body (any kind of involuntary mirroring, their gestures imitating yours), a revealing slip of the tongue— these are signs that the victim is slipping into the moment and pressure is to be applied.
  7. Master the Art of the Bold Move
  8. One person must go on the offensive, and it is you.
  9. Beware the Aftereffects
  10. Stir the pot, even if that means a return to inflicting pain and pulling back. Never rely on your physical charms; even beauty loses its appeal with repeated exposure. Only strategy and effort will fight off inertia
  11. Maintain your mystery and lightness
  12. Avoid the slow burnout, Once you feel disenchanted and know it is over, ends it quickly, without apology. Once you are truly disenchanted, there is no going back, so don’t hang on out of false pity. It is more compassionate to make a clean break. If that seems inappropriate or too ugly, then deliberately disenchant the victim with anti-seductive behaviour.