Saturday, March 3, 2012
Ten Steps to Know your Partner
1. Be realistic about each other.
Don't try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let's face
it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had
her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical
appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few facials
or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u're gonna
have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u
are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues,
but u know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about
each other's feelings. Learn to xpress urself better so that ur partner
undrstands what u're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When
u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do t hings together. Do some sports or involve urselves
in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in.
It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling
hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccor with him once in a while
though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do
give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than
suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities"
instead. If u're spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur
partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u
shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy. There's
gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet
each other halfway.
5.Show ur love
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if u have been
together for 5years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care
for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card.
Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy
him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he
knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for
quite a while.
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh
at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority
complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse!
Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each
other at all times.
7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u
and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys,
don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her
in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and she
might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or
not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on ur jealousy.
All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the
relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u're
gonna go through ur partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on
conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a
poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally y killing
it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep ur commitments to each other.
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and
breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're in a relationship, make ur
partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's really
terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to
cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If ur partner starts to feel
that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning,
or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest",
we mean expressing < EM>ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When
u're hurt, say so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting
hysterical. If u can't be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with?
� Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists
probably isn't worth it!
Warm Regards,
Aditya C
**Story of Appreciation**
This is a powerful message in our modern society.
We seemed to have lost our bearing & our sense of direction.
**Story of Appreciation**
One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research,
**Story of Appreciation**
One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research,
never had a year when he did not score.
The director asked,
The director asked,
the youth answered "none".
The director asked,
The director asked,
" Was it your father who paid for your school fees?"
The youth answered,
"My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.
The director asked,
The director asked,
" Where did your mother work?"
The youth answered,
The director requested the youth to show his hands.
The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.
The director asked,
The director asked,
" Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?"
The youth answered,
"Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books.
Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.
The director said,
The director said,
"I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.
This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.
The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked:
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.
This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.
The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked:
" Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered,
The youth answered,
" please tell me your feelings."
The youth said,
The youth said,
Number 1,
I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today.
Number 2,
by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.
Number 3,
I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said,
The director said,
" This is what I am looking for to be my manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.
A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality"and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.
A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality"and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts.
When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others.
For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement.
He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*
You can let your kid live in a big house, give him a Driver & Car for going around, Eat a Good Meal, learn Piano, Watch a Big Screen TV. But when you are Cutting Grass, please let them experience it. After a Meal, let them Wash their Plates and Bowls together with their Brothers and Sisters. Tell them to Travel in Public Bus, It is not because you do not have Money for Car or to Hire a Maid, but it is because you want to Love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will Grow Grey, same as the Mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.
You would have forwarded many mails to many and many of them would have back mailed you too...but try and forward this story to as many as possible...this may change somebody's fate...
You can let your kid live in a big house, give him a Driver & Car for going around, Eat a Good Meal, learn Piano, Watch a Big Screen TV. But when you are Cutting Grass, please let them experience it. After a Meal, let them Wash their Plates and Bowls together with their Brothers and Sisters. Tell them to Travel in Public Bus, It is not because you do not have Money for Car or to Hire a Maid, but it is because you want to Love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will Grow Grey, same as the Mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.
You would have forwarded many mails to many and many of them would have back mailed you too...but try and forward this story to as many as possible...this may change somebody's fate...
Study: Facebook profile beats IQ test in predicting job performance
Can a person's Facebook profile reveal what kind of employee he or she might be? The answer is yes, and with unnerving accuracy, according to a new paper published in the Journal of Applied Social Psychology.
And if you are smugly thinking to yourself, "I've carefully wiped my Facebook page of any incriminating photos, comments and wall posts," - well, it turns out you may still not have hidden your true nature from future employers: On a rating scale that examines key personality attributes that indicate future job success, you might get rated high in conscientiousness and possibly low on extroversion.
Other things a prospective employer might be able to glean from your Facebook profile is openness to new experiences (vacation pictures from a glacier off New Zealand), emotional stability (are your friends constantly offering you words of comfort?) and agreeableness (are you constantly arguing with "friends?").
In a series of two studies conducted by researchers at Northern Illinois University, the University of Evansville and Auburn University, six people with experience in human resources were asked to rate a sample of 500 people in terms of key personality traits using only the sample group's Facebook pages as a guideline.
The raters were told to spend roughly five to 10 minutes with each person's Facebook page, and work on the project for no longer than one and a half hours per day to avoid fatigue. They were asked to rate members of the sample group on what is known as the "Big Five" personality traits, which includes extroversion, conscientiousness, emotional stability, agreeableness and openness to new experiences. High scores on these traits are generally accepted by human resources managers as an indication of future good job performance.
Members of the sample group were asked to give a self-evaluation and took an IQ test. In one study, researchers followed up with the employers of people in the sample group six months after their personality traits were rated, to ask questions about job performance.
The researchers found that the raters were generally in agreement about the personality traits expressed in the sample group's Facebook page, and that their ratings correlated strongly with self-rated personality traits. More importantly, they also found that the Facebook ratings were a more accurate way of predicting a person's job performance than an IQ test.
Although the study does suggest that looking at a job applicant's Facebook page can prove useful for employers, Donald Kluemper, the lead researcher on the study, said employers need to tread carefully here.
A Facebook page can provide a lot of information that it would be illegal for an employer to ask of a candidate in a phone interview. For instance, a person's gender, race, age and whether they have a disability might all be visible on that person's Facebook page.
Still, a 2011 study conducted by the social media service Reppler found that 90 percent of recruiters and hiring managers look at an applicant's Facebook page whether they should or not.
"This was an effort to provide some evidence that checking on a person's Facebook page might be valuable and might be useful," Kluemper said. "But I wouldn't go so far as to say that one study should be used as a reason to start using Facebook in hiring.
"Any other selection tool that is out there has been studied hundreds of thousands of times. Basically, there needs to be a lot more work done in this area."
(c)2012 the Los Angeles Times
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"Study: Facebook profile beats IQ test in predicting job performance." March 2nd, 2012. http://medicalxpress.com/news/2012-03-facebook-profile-iq-job.html
Comment:
Just when did 'Emotional Stability' replace 'Neuroticism'???
Just when did 'Emotional Stability' replace 'Neuroticism'???
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Robert Karl Stonjek
Robert Karl Stonjek
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