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Monday, February 2, 2015

Women in our dharma

Although women may be classified according to varna, they are also considered a section of society in their own right. They do not pass through the four stages available to men. Rather the Manu Smriti talks of three stages for a woman:
* As a child protected by her father: Traditionally, girls did not receive a formal academic education. A woman's role, considered essential in preserving social and cultural values, was learned in the home.
* As a married lady, protected by her husband: Hinduism places great value on pre-marital chastity and this has significantly influenced practices. Girls were betrothed and married at a very young age. In married life, the wife's roles were centred on the home and she was not burdened with contributing towards the family income. Fulfilling one's responsibility as a loving and available parent was considered paramount.
* As a widow, protected by the eldest son: If the husband died or took sannyasa, then the widow would be looked after by the eldest living son. Elder ladies were always treated with great respect.
According to tradition, women, more delicate than men, require and deserve protection. Hindu texts extol the virtues of womanhood and of the essential role women have in nurturing future generations. Though Hindus are themselves re-examining and restructuring the roles of women, there still remain powerful ideals, exemplified by ladies such as Sita, Gandhari, Draupadi, Mandodari, and Savitri. Such idealism is often at odds with many prevalent attitudes in the West, and those now emerging in contemporary India.
Traditional female values and duties are listed below (please note that many similar practices such as the first one below also apply to males):
• As a child, to be obedient and respectful to her parents and elders.
• In household life, to serve a worthy husband and treat his friends and relatives with affection. To avoid mixing intimately with other men.
• To be fully conversant in religious principles.
• To be expert in household affairs, and to keep the home clean and well-decorated.
• To dress and decorate herself to please her husband. A wife should avoid dressing up if her husband is away from home.
• To control her greed and passions and to speak truthfully and pleasingly.
• To follow certain vratas (vows) such as fasting on days like Ekadasi (the 11th day of the moon).
• To love, protect and nurture children.
• In later life, to dedicate time to spiritual practices and to give counsel to younger family members.
Many related practices have been misused, and fossilised as part of the hereditary caste system. The bhakti traditions, which opposed casteism, have featured many women saints who broke away from stereotypical roles. Others remained faithful to their dharma and simultaneously developed their spirituality. Many Hindus acknowledge the need to reassess the practical role of women in society today, but strive to maintain the spiritual principles underpinning traditional practice.
Related Concepts
The basic foundation of equality lies in the notion of atman, the self beyond bodily designation. However, Hindus also acknowledge the need to recognise psychological and physiological differences as a practical reality. Equality is manifest through the concept of sanatana-dharma and conditional differences through varnasrama-dharma. Failing to recognise the spiritual equality of all and denying our external differences are both considered signs of ignorance and contrary to dharma. Spiritual equality is affirmed by discerning material differences, and recognising them for what they are — ultimately superficial but practically relevant.
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"It is not that a chaste woman should be a slave while her husband is naradhama, the lowest of men. Although the duties of a woman are different from those of a man, a chaste woman is not meant to serve a fallen [irresponsible] husband." - A. C. Bhaktivedanta Swami